All those words that describe the mountain also describe marriage: hard, challenging, sometimes exhausting. Truly, marriage is not all uphill. The analogy is not perfect. But, sometimes marriage is not fun. Sometimes we struggle. Sometimes, it’s a grind. And, just like on the bike, it’s tempting at times to give up.
But, that isn’t why I came. I didn’t come to quit.
Sadly though, with marriage, too many couples do. Aiming for the summit, with high hopes, they start off well. But it gets hard, grueling, not what they expected. So, they quit. They tap out. They cheat. Some "quit quietly." They just stop trying. Marriages die in many ways. There’s more than one way to leave.
Sometimes, when I have miles still to go on the mountain, I play a little game in my head that helps me stay in it. I pick a spot twenty or so feet ahead and tell myself, “Just get to that spot…just a few feet.”
And, when I get there, I pick another spot twenty more feet ahead.
I don’t think about climbing to the top…just climbing a little bit more.
Some days in your relationship, you can’t think about solving all your troubles, resolving all your conflict. So, just make this day good. Just love your partner for this day. Just make it through this week.
The author Robert Anderson said, “Every marriage has grounds for divorce. The trick is to find grounds for marriage.” So, find a reason to stay on the mountain one more day, one more moment, aiming for higher ground.
John Gottman discovered that the majority of couples who stay in the game, even—especially—when it’s tough, say later that they’re glad they did. Perhaps it’s because the view from the top is great. They’re stronger for the trip and, best of all, it may not be easy, but it’s worth it.
It’s so worth it.
If you’re one of those couples committed to the climb, in it for the long haul, but maybe are feeling depleted because the mountain is so steep and you're tired, don't quit. Let me suggest a Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat. You can get to the top. And a little coaching along the way makes the journey easier and more enjoyable. Don’t just endure the hard times. Hold Me Tight®️ will help you and your partner team up to smooth out the steep places. Imagine facing challenges and actually becoming stronger, closer for the effort. Believe me, it’s possible. Couples like that are bulletproof! That’s what Hold Me Tight®️ can do.
The science behind Hold Me Tight®️ makes sense. The tools are practical and the confidence you’ll gain together will make mountains more like mere bumps in the road.
No one ever said marriage is easy. But, if you stay in the journey, and with Hold Me Tight®️ guiding you, you’ll find that, even if it isn’t easy, it’s worth it.
It’s SO WORTH IT.
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