Last night, in the kitchen, I opened the cabinet under the sink to find everything wet. A water line had sprung a slow drip, drip, drip leak and I had a mess on my hands. Now, I can do simple repairs around the house. I repaired our toilet yesterday. I installed a ceiling fan recently. But, plumbing is above my pay grade.
So, I had three options. First, I could ignore the problem. It was a slow leak. I could just put a bucket under it and empty it every few days, or just keep wiping up the puddle. Maybe, magically, it would just fix itself. Not likely…and the problem would certainly, eventually get worse.
Second, I could try to fix it myself. I considered that for maybe a half a second. Bad idea. As I said, plumbing is not my specialty. I know just enough about faucets and pipes to be dangerous. That leaky pipe is corroded. One wrong move and the minor leak could become a minor flood. A great movie line says, “A man’s got to know his limitations.” Plumbing is one of mine. Fixing the leak myself is not an option.
My third option then is the best, and really the only reasonable one: call a plumber. A plumber has forgotten more than I’ll ever know about leaky pipes. Their experience and expertise will keep a small problem small. What would be insurmountable for me is a quick fix for a trained plumber.
So, as I write this, I’m waiting for the plumber. That is, in fact, what most people would do. It makes sense, whether it’s plumbing, auto mechanics, lawn care, even medical care. Most people are smart enough to get skilled help for things they’re not equipped or experienced to do themselves.
So, if that is common practice for most people, why then, why is that not the case when it comes to relationships?
Why do so many couples struggle with conflict, disconnection, hurt or betrayal and insist on either ignoring the problem as it only gets worse, or trying to fix it on their own?
Relationship problems ignored only get more entrenched and intractable. They seldom, if ever, fix themselves. And trying to fix those problems on our own often only makes matters worse. For too many couples, the thought of getting help is proof that they’ve failed or they’re foolish. So they labor on alone, embarrassed to reach out and slowly losing hope.
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