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Hold Me Tight Beats Cards and Candy

Ah, here it comes: you no sooner recover from Christmas spending and it’s February. Valentine’s Day is the fifth biggest spending holiday on the calendar in America, so get out your wallet. We will spend upwards of 26 billion (that’s “B”—billion!) dollars this year to say, “I love you” to that special one. Cards, candy, flowers, jewelry, dinner out, who knows? The sky’s the limit. And it isn’t a waste—it’s always great to say (and hear) “I love you.” But, it can get old. It can get tired. And you might rightfully wonder, “Does it make a difference? Does it last?”

Cards get thrown away. Candy only puts on the pounds. Flowers wilt and die.

Hold Me Tight is for Any Couple

How about giving and receiving something that lasts, something that could change your relationship for good? Come to a Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat in Florida. Hold Me Tight®️ is truly a gift that keeps on giving, long after cards and candy are gone and forgotten. Hold Me Tight®️ is a two day retreat for committed couples at any age or stage: dating, living together, newlywed, long time married, couples in crisis or just trying to make a good thing better. Hold Me Tight®️ fits almost any couple.

Learn and Grow Together

Hold Me Tight®️ will teach you about your relationship and yourself. It is rooted in the fascinating tenets of attachment science and a model called Emotionally Focused Therapy. But, Hold Me Tight®️ is not therapy. It is learning and interacting, not only with other couples, but most of all, with your partner. Since our group is often very diverse, each couple goes at their own pace. No one is put on the spot. It isn’t “pass” or “fail.” We learn together and then give you time to practice with your partner—practice new conversations that lead to greater intimacy and connection than you ever thought possible.

You will leave understanding how and why you and the one you love most so easily and so often get stuck in the same conflicts. Those conflicts often lead nowhere and leave you wondering why you can’t seem to get out of your own way. When you finally begin to make sense of those “round and round” cycles of conflict, and how to interrupt them, you can change the conversation and create deep connection.

You leave understanding better what you and partner most need and long for in your relationship. You leave with a priceless road map for getting there and the confidence that your relationship can truly be that safe place we all need to be and do well in life.

Hold Me Tight®️ is more than learning to “fight fair” or negotiate better. It goes deeper. As you learn the value of empathy and vulnerability in love, you learn to turn towards, not away from or against your partner. You learn truly to team up—together—against any challenge you might face.

A Gift that Keeps on Giving

Hold Me Tight®️ is powerful and has the best track record in the business. Research consistently shows that 70 percent of couples who attend this workshop are doing well as much as two years later. That beats the heck out of cards and candy!

Every year, almost half of all New Year’s resolutions involve improving one’s primary relationship. If that was you this year, here’s your chance. Stop talking about it. The time is now. Do something that proves you care. Do something that lasts. Get in on Hold Me Tight®️.

Join us just outside Orlando on February 9 & 10, the weekend before Valentine’s Day. There’s no time like the present. Sign up right now!

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