Every Couple Needs a Road Map

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Every Couple Needs a Road Map

Let’s say you’re going on a road trip. You need several things. You need to know where you want to go and you need a vehicle that will get you there. You can have a wonderful destination in mind. You may even have a brand new car—reliable, well equipped and full of gas. And you can be ready and willing to go. But you won’t make it without one more thing.

You have to know HOW to get there. You need directions. Just to get behind the wheel and start driving is a bad idea. As they say, “Failing to plan is planning to fail.” Without directions, eventually, however hard you might try, you’ll probably end up lost.

Couples Get Lost Too

And that isn’t just true for road trips. It’s also true for relationships. All couples start out headed in the right direction. They have the vehicle. Their love is beautiful and will take them places. So they embark. As the song says, “A kiss for luck and we’re on our way.” But, we all find sooner or later that love is not enough—good intentions alone won’t get you there. We need directions. Looking for a place we’ve never been and, after perhaps years of searching, we begin to believe that we’ll never find that happy place (if it even exists). The highway of love is strewn with couples who gave up or broke down along the way. It’s all too common…all for lack of a good road map.

If that’s you…if you and your partner want desperately to get to a better place but just don’t know how, don’t give up. Great news: there IS a road map. No matter how long you’ve been lost, you can get back on the right track.

Hold Me Tight is Your Road Map

That’s what Hold Me Tight®️ is all about. Hold Me Tight®️ is a road map for relationships, one that leads to understanding, clarity, connection and a deeper level of intimacy that is the very definition of love. Come to a Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat in Florida and find a clear path and the confidence that you can get there, even if you thought you were lost for good.

So, what happens at a Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat? First, you’ll learn how you and your partner get so lost. How could you start out so right and end up so wrong, so disconnected, so escalated? And you seem to have the same arguments, as if you’re going in circles, but getting nowhere. Hold Me Tight®️ is rooted in solid science. Love need not be so confusing. Hold Me Tight®️ will help you make sense of what so often doesn’t.

But, that’s just the first step. From there you’ll learn what all humans need in love and how to give it. You’ll learn how to have conversations, not confrontations. You’ll learn about powerful tools like vulnerability and empathy AND how to use them…with your partner, at your own pace, in real time. Hold Me Tight®️ is a low key, group experience. You’ll not only be with your partner; you’ll be with other couples as well who are finding their way too.

In a previous life, I was an over the road trucker. With my trusty road atlas, I could literally get to anywhere in these United States confidently and capably. The road map made all the difference.

But, now, I’m a couples therapist and I’ve seen countless couples who have the “want to.” They love each other and are desperately searching for their “happy place.” But they don’t know how to get there. They try. They keep trying. But, the more they try and the more lost they feel, the more their hope wanes.

Too many give up..all for lack of a road map.

Don’t Give Up

If that’s you, you’re not alone. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad couple. It just means you’re lost. The shame isn’t in being lost. It’s in not using the map at your fingertips. Hold Me Tight®️ is your map.

Let Hold Me Tight®️ show you the way.

Come to Florida and start your journey. We embark THIS Friday and Saturday. We have room for you at Hold Me Tight®️. Sign up today!

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