Couples in Crisis

What if couples could do that? Couples get into crisis all the time. They lose communication or find themselves in a tailspin. When that happens, emotionally speaking, it’s life threatening. No doubt, you’ve been there. With little warning, almost out of the blue, you can be in real relationship distress, feeling alone, desperate and the ground is coming at you very fast. Panic is a good word for what you feel, very out of control. It can be terrifying.

A couples safety plan might look like this: first of all, someone declares an emergency. That’s saying, “We need help. We’re spinning out of control. Our situation isn’t safe. We are in trouble.” The couple isn’t alone. They have resources, but they must declare the emergency first.

And, when they do, everything else stops…no other conversation, no other activities. Their attention is on the crisis at hand alone. All their resources go to stabilizing the situation and getting back to safety. That’s Job 1. 

Stopping a Cycle

Emergency procedures are good decisions meant to slow things down and interrupt bad decisions. In crisis, sometimes one panic move leads to others and they snowball. That’s how disasters happen. In conflict, perhaps you snap at your partner. Your partner snaps back or shuts down. Things escalate. It can quickly go from bad to worse…to crash and burn.

But, when you declare that emergency, you and your partner can slow down and team up rather than square off. You can fight the problem—together—instead of fighting your partner. And you can martial other resources as well. 

What might those be?

Help From Your “Ground Crew”

How about a Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat? Hold Me Tight®️ is your relationship “control tower,” your ground crew to help guide you out of danger and back to safety. And Hold Me Tight®️ is right there to come alongside when you reach out. 

In a two day retreat together with your partner and other couples, Hold Me Tight®️ will show you where and how you get lost or what might put you in a tailspin. Every couple interacts with good intentions that sometimes bring bad results. No one ever crashes a plane intentionally, but planes (and relationships) do crash, sometimes because a crew member with good intentions makes a bad move. 

Often, the very thing(s) we do in love to make it better only make it worse. As confusing as that can be, it actually makes a lot of sense when you break it down. A Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat will help you make sense of what often doesn’t, and also teach you better moves to get back to safe ground. 

What is Your Safety Plan?

At the end of the day, every flight crew and every couple needs a safety plan. Of course, this analogy is imperfect, but it’s true that both love and aviation are tricky. The air is thin up there and things can go very wrong very fast. Emergencies happen. But, help is close by. Having a plan, that you KNOW how to use will increase the odds that you will land safely and avert disaster. Hold Me Tight®️ can help show you how.

Sunny Florida is the setting for your “flight training.” Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreats happen four times a year here and the next one is next month! See the homepage of the website for details. Seating is limited so sign up today!

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